During class, when we began talking about the article, I found it repulsive and just wrong that some cultures see women as "rapeable." The discourse and language that people use to discuss and talk about rape (which is actually what I am discussing in my third essay) is rather displeasing to the ear. How do you define someone as "rapeable?" I guess that goes back to the idea that many people have such as:
The way she was dressed
The way that she behaved at whatever social event
She "asked" for it
She drank too much, so it doesn't matter.
All of these examples are an unfortunate and inexcusable reasons for why a woman was raped. It is not at all an acceptable type of behavior, yet it still continues to happen. Why? Why is sex considered a taboo topic? Sex is the reason behind why the human population still lives and breathes on this earth today. So why is rape unspeakable? This is sort of irrelevant, but whenever the word rape is said, the line from Harry Potter of, "He who must not be named" pops up in my head and that how I feel rape is viewed as in society.
The cultural view on women as the weaker gender is interesting to me. I absolutely stand behind the ideal that women are just as capable as men and can run a business or do whatever the want. However, traditional values such as hunter and gatherers is not always a bad thing. Isn't the idea behind being able to provide for a family make a man, a man? What happens if you take that away from them? Does that create hostility towards women? And isn't hostility towards women a trait behind perpetrators of rape? If men can't provide for women because women insist of doing that themselves, what will the man do in the relationship? Will this discourage him of feeling like he can't provide, which connects to a number of different things, such as intimacy and personal feeling within a relationship? Then, won't that lead to the idea behind hyper masculinity where he begins to overcompensate and it may bleed into the wrong category and he will begin to rape? Rapists desire the idea of control, so will this idea of the women being able to do it all feed that need for control?
I am definitely not saying that women need to be the princess and rely on the man to provide and gather for her, however, I believe that there is a balance in every relationship, and really, honestly, in just socializing with the opposite gender.
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